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My secret to a perfect relationship and lasting

I am not a psychologist, I had no training in relationship counseling. However, I was married to a wonderful girl for the past five years and during that time, we never had a fight or scream at the other. Each day one day of peace and love, and it is as exciting now that the day he fell in love with her. Over the years I have come to understand his mind and I think I found the key to a happy relationship. Without doubt, it works for me and maybe that works for you. I mean I'm from Spain, and met my wife in Indonesia, where they still live. If we begin with the recognition. Have you noticed that when you throw a ball to a happy puppy and spills, which collects and returns to you and then give a pat on the head, to complain and tell him what a smart dog is he? His tail wags wildly (In the event that our Rottweiler, shook violently STUB). He just loves recognition. Personally, I usually forget where I leave my glasses to read. One day when I was in search of them, one of the parents of my young wife and Yuyun was returned to me. I thanks and said: "Wow, what a smart kid you." His chest swelled and his face beamed. After that, whenever you had the chance, he would "Find" my glasses, but I knew where they were, just to hear some words of praise. You know, not really grow. But they are aging. I like it very appropriate to say "The only difference between a man and a child is the cost of their toys."
What if this applies our relationship? Well, several times a day Yuyun say how beautiful she is, how much I love and I am very lucky to have her love. This has the effect not only to show him that I appreciate it, but she also wants to be beautiful, with the result that always tries to look your best. I make a point of never be given by. Each time you make a meal for me, kissing, thank and say how good it was. Every time she goes shopping, she will do their best for something special I know I will appreciate your efforts. Every time he comes to kiss me thank you. The word thank you "if you talk honestly can do wonders.
What about communication and understanding? I always remember my parents in the United Kingdom have dispute and the husband shouting: "What is wrong with you?" to which his wife replied: "You know very well what is the question! "But no … because I do not understand. Everyone is an individual with different needs and desires. You have to discover what those in your partner. Yuyun and have spent hours talking about our childhood and past lives. After five years has a fairly good understanding of how your mind. She had a very poor family, who may not have enough money to buy food. His father had to go fishing or massage neighbors to get a little support. As a child, he had no toys or dolls. As she grew up watching the other girls were better and we hope she could have a cell phone or fine clothes as they had. The result is that we now have a deep desire to be recognized and to be watched. Because the site we operate, we have appeared on local television several times and when we walk in the city many people point and stop chatting: the lover. Now, at age 24 has three cell phones and a cupboard full of dolls, which are by their past, a disadvantage! If understanding what is and is aimed at him. Because I understand how she has never had any money and had to keep asking for some left to manage all the finances of the family. She debit card bank account and give a feeling of power. We are not rich by any means, living solely on my pension. It should be understood and never extravagant. We will buy clothes for her rise from $ 20 and she will return home happy. Based on his childhood experience, go twenty miles of their best to save ten cents for an item. He sends crazy, but happy, so go with it. My attitude is that she does everything in their power to keep me happy, so I think I should be. The same family visits. Do not talk about Indonesia, I'm sitting there like a dummy, sweating and being eaten alive by mosquitoes, as it not chat. I still remember the calm she knows and is never demanding and of course I love. I usually play just young children in the family who are cute and where the language is not necessary.
I guess we could call this test. Both Yuyun and I are concerned. If we see someone pushing a bike that will stop and see if we can help. If we see a child crossing the street, we will ensure they receive all the security. It's our nature. Not sure that WHO is not considered may change, but you can may be bound to consider the feelings of your partner. Yuyun example, loves the constant attention. She wants to be regular in his arms and heart. I like to keep my brain active to take the time to write computer programs and solve the puzzles more difficult Sukodu. This requires a lot concentration, trying to remember a series of numbers in my head and I want to be interrupted. However, when attention Yuyun wants or wants to talk, immediately put the question to one side and give my full attention. I still remember the story of an aquarium in which there was a partition glass. On the one hand, a large fish and other wild side of a small placid. The big fish tried to attack and eat small fish, but I got a nose sore. After a few days, he was tired of it and surrendered. Then, the partition is removed, but the big fish do not yet have any interest in the pursuit of small fish and find food elsewhere. The analogy of this story is that if someone refuses sometimes love is enough, then they stop trying and maybe someone else.
I really think Yuyun think that as far as I am so excited about our relationship that I have absolutely no interest in another woman. I can honestly say that this is the first time in my life I've felt this way. Yuyun fact, if she never gets angry with me, is angry when other men try reach her, as do regularly! "I have a husband who loves me, he said." What is missing?
I should mention that the culture someone, obviously, have something to do with the way they think and act. Here in Indonesia is the custom of removing shoes entering a house. So many people wear sandals that are easy to fall once more time. When we left the house of someone, I Yuyun above, and looks to turn outwards MI sandals that you do not have to. When I do not really need anything she replied: "Please do not stop me from doing something that shows that I love you." After five years still do! When we races, insists on taking all packages. When she has a very heavy, I have to force her to let me take. She expects nor wishes me help in the kitchen with cooking or cleaning. I am your Lord when any equipment or vehicles are FixIt problems. In fact, I can fix most of mechanical and electrical problems as I have been trained for this, but when I do, I think Yuyun true genius and told all his friends how I'm smart. She is not interested in equality. She wants to be a woman and wants me to be a man. He starts the fight with me to prove that I am stronger than him. It will protect all that scary. She said what you want to do and I wonder if it's okay with me. She knows that I 'll say yes, but he likes to ask me anyway.
Sex also requires examination. How do you know what pleases your partner if you do not ask? When I was young, I used to ask every girl I met what he liked and when and how he loved. I built a knowledge base beyond my friends and I could never understand how I managed to go out with women so beautiful when I personally was not particularly beautiful. When you love someone, there are a lot of fun to please your loved ones. Yuyun and I slept together in what is called the spoon position, hugging each other all night. After five years, I find it interesting that when I met her. Part of this may be because she stays in such good condition. It does not fall asleep without removing your makeup and take a shower. Your body and your breathing is always a sweet smell. Really live longer as a loving husband and wife couple. Yuyun awake at 5:00 with a radiant smile that stays with her all day. Jump out of bed, jump and dance while I try to drag me. I do not know how that. She said that because he is always happy, day night. I can wake up in the middle of the night, take the bike cold, pouring rain and yet she laughed, laughing … few times until we slid off the bike in the mud. How can you not love a woman? Because of this penalty has never with her. I was anger situations, but never on his person. When I start to rant about something, she smiled and said: "Remember I love you" and that it breaks and I get to laugh with her. Therefore, the above is my secret to a lasting relationship. Maybe you can find something to improve the yours.

About the Author

I am from Sheffield in the UK and have lived in several other countries including France, Canada, USA, Bahamas, Jamaica and Colombia. I am now living in Indonesia which I personally believe is the best of the bunch. I am married to a much younger girl and we are so happy together that we started a webpage to introduce Western men to Indonesian women www.an-asian-wife.com Email exbrit69@yahoo.com Yahoo Messenger ID is exbrit69

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